Letter 1029: A father's praise of his children is usually honest, and yet somehow it loses force — people suspect it's motivated...

A father's praise of his children is usually honest, and yet somehow it loses force — people suspect it's motivated by affection rather than judgment. So I find myself uncertain what to say about the honorable Thalassius, your son-in-law. If I praise his character lightly, I'll look envious. If I do him full justice, I'll seem like a flatterer. So I'll follow the model of Sallust's understated testimonial: "You have a man worthy of you and, through you, of a consular family" — a man whom fortune found already greater than the honors she bestowed, whose integrity of soul and moral seriousness had already won him distinction beyond what office could add. Farewell.

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